“Shopping for houses is amazing. People who would never invite you into their homes under any other circumstances open their doors wide, allow you to peer into their closets, pass judgment on their wallpaper, ask pointed questions about their gutters..” Just read in one other blog, thought would share will u all too. coz, its indeed weird but true!

mail from Rajeshprabu.G and D.Joshiba

Hi God blessed us with a male child on 02 nov 2006. we have not yet decided his name as the astrologer had given us the alphabets in which we cant even imagine a tamil name.hope we will be naming him this week. i have changed my mobile number. it is 9944453244. thats all for now. Rajeshprabu.g

Valuable concept of yester men

Yes, i was awe struck by the way people had solved some very critical issues related to human relationships. Today i thought i should put forth a very good concept which was conceived and adopted and was in practice in olden days. Dont know, if there are much chances for its usage now, but still just advocating, how clear had our ancestors been!

Yes, it happened to me one day when i was on at my native talking to my mom about one of our relative. He had a elder brother who was not gifted with a kid. So he gave his first kid(Girl) to be adopted by his brother. And meanwhile, they had a second baby which was a boy.

Things went fine until, the elder brother started opposing his brother's visit to his place and not show love on their kid as he felt insecure that the kid might like to go back to the parents. So our relative was very upset and there started a breach in relationship and they wanted to get back their child.

And his brother had kind of shown much love on the kid and was very fond of her and was not ready to accept our relative. The problem persisted and it went on and on and the kid was swayed between the two parents.

Finally our relative had to get back the kid forcefully but the relation ship is no more with his brother. As we were discussing this, i asked my mom, "Were there any such problem in olden days and how people tackled such problems?" because i knew it was prevalent in olden days to adopt kids in the relation.

But when i asked my mom, she said, in olden days there werent not much such problems. i dont know why, but the concept of adoption was different then. i asked her what it was. She said, "Assume me as a guy and i am married and i dont have a kid, then if i have a brother who is married but has got kids and grandkids too. So now, instead of adopting the kids, the custom was to adopt the grandkids."

I was amazed at such a concept which appeared quiet uncomprehensive or weird to me. Then i thought, why could that be so. There flashed a light. The reason is, as i portrayed in my first conditin, there were two fathers who were equal and want to have hold on the child, but if they are of different relation by root, then this problem may not come.

So i thought, thats why people went for adopting grand kids. The person who adopts is happy that he has got a kid, and though it is his kid, he is related to him as grandkid kind and so he would like to show love of that nature only to the kid, rather than claiming as father. that way the relation will also not get spoilt and so will every thing be intact.

I could see a very foreseen condition of analysing a problem in this solution. Amazing isnt it!

ok will write more later.

Regards, Ranjini

RIP

May this blog Rest In Peace :(. Is this the ed of all in a day's work? hmmmm...........

Any Thoughts???

buSHIVA Caricature

A note on progress - from somewhere

An individual is fortunate if he makes even a modicum of psychological progress in his life. E.g., a dull, dim-witted individual develops a new level of mental vibrancy, or a weak individual takes to a modestly higher degree of psychological strength. In our own lives, it is unfortunately too rare to make such progressive strides.

To help us measure our true progress in life, we can develop a scale that ranges from growth to development to evolution to transformation. Most of us are able to grow, in the sense that we obtain more of what we already have. E.g. an individual, who has a house, develops an add-on facility in the back yard, or a sales person who had 20 individual boutiques as accounts, eventually acquires 40. That type of progress is horizontal, as it is more of the same thing. More knowledge, more money, more relations, more of what we already are capable of. Development on the other hand is a vertical progress, the acquisition of some quality of being, capacity, or level of achievement that we did not have before. E.g., the sales person who had 20 boutique accounts has developed an inner skill and capacity that has enabled him to attract a chain of stores as clients. Perhaps he has acquired a little more psychological toughness, or he has developed a new level of sales and interpersonal skill to make this happen. Most of us have made some progress along these lines at some point in our lives, though, realistically, it has likely not been enough. In fact, most of us are content with horizontal growth, of more at the same level. There are even a few who do not even have the aspiration for that minimal form of progress. They usually will regress. Above development is an even greater form of progress. It is what we can call human evolution. When a weak person becomes a strong person, that is evolution. When an uneducated dolt becomes a well-read expert in a field, there is certainly evolution. It is a movement and progress to an entirely different plane of being. When a wildly emotional person becomes a psychologically stable and reasonable individual, they move from a lower vital plane of life to a higher, mental one. It is an evolutionary movement. If that same person goes further and is able to maintain a constant level of calm and peace within, then that individual has even been a modicum of spiritual evolution. Very seriously taking to a path of personal progress can lead not only to vertical development, but, in the rarest of cases, to personal, and even spiritual evolution. Finally, the greatest form of progress, even beyond evolution, is Transformation. It is a decidedly radical change in our nature. It is not only a movement from one plane to a higher plane of being, but the permanent settling there, so that the change is second nature to us. It is virtually unheard of, yet remains a measure of ultimate progress in life. E.g., the once emotional, non-stable person has now progressed to become a tower of calm for others in the world. Whatever the level of change we seek, the key to making that progress is our level of aspiration -- which is, in essence, our conscious intention to make a thing happen. Do we change because life forces us to do so, or because we consciously desire for it to come about? Conscious change is the best way, the way for the True Individuals of the future.

Regards, Ranjini

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Festival of dances-PartII

Is comparing two forms of dance is correct or not. But then ya, the last day of Festival of dances hosted Bharathanatyam by Chitra vishveshwaran and manjari and Mohiniattam by dance group from kerala.

And i could feel that, bharathanatyam(BN) poses were stiff where as that of odissi or kuchipudi was more of the natural way of moving a body. May be i felt it(BN) to have become too disciplined that, i felt it too mechanical or unnatural . The expressions or bhava of the performer was more kind of sick feeling which i experience when i listen to highly emotional (almost crying) songs sung as devotional songs. I felt like having watched an overact work by Shivaji ganesan.

somehow i always feel, dance should bring the best out of you. But i feel, the expressions which they showed was highly artificial that, i started losing interest in BN. But then, you might argue that may be these performers are like this, but then you should not take just one sample to judge, but then frankly speaking, even the one i saw at Vasantha habba i found Priyadarshini govind ok kind and Even then, i was attracted by grace and beauty in odissi rather than BN. And all those kind of makeups to hide the age of the performer and the not so good performance which was exhibited by the way they were sweating or taking deep breaths or adjustments they were doing really made me feel for BN.

Mohini attam also wasnt upto the mark. Anyway for a performance i do take into consideration the state of the performer and various other parameters before i conclude to completely give up BN.